Home Ownership Is Often Considered A Cornerstone Of The American Dream

Owning a home has become one of the mainstays of the ideal adult life in America.  Along with marriage, wealth and happiness for yourself and those in your social circles.  Homeownership is a primary symbol of accomplishment.  It displays you have achieved many of the necessary requirements to meet those illustrious qualifications.  However inexperienced buyers can face hardships and exploitation in a seller’s market where greed can become a cunning offense ending in a bad contract for the new owner.  This can involve the overall cost of the home, the land it is housed on, the area they will reside in and the structure of the building.  Real estate developers have the advantage as they can also decide the price of a listing.  The majority of merchants are very honest in dealing with the public at this.  However, some situations can lend itself to gross inflation in pursuit of additional profit.  It does not really matter if the property is in high demand or if one party is assured to make the purchase.  The bottom line is usually the finalized deal and not the process that led to it.  Houses have been built on unstable land where damage to the property and injury to the residents have occurred.  A portion of these events are caused by natural disasters or unforeseen events which are not included in the insurance policy.  Again there are good retailers and lenders who will mention this information up front establishing the pros and cons.  There are others who will never discuss it leaving an entire life’s work up in the air to chance.  The area can also be confusing to new occupants looking for a place to dwell.  Getting a genuine feel and sense of the surrounding area is something many homeowners do when acquiring their humble abode.  Some try to gather data on that prior to making an informed decision.  While many more will take the realtor’s word as gospel without doing their own due diligence. 

If I would suggest any advice it would be for potential home buyers to take time to learn about this topic.  Do your own research before agreeing to the final purchase.  You can enter the discussion with all the questions you want to ask or ready to have a tasteful dialog where you can stand on your own.  Education is an incipient factor to any inchoate operation one will indulge themselves in.  Learning about a subject can reveal new information and modify your preferences or lead you to be further entrenched in your position.  Use your time studying to know what you like and what else may be available.  Understand why there are so many options and what factors play directly into the pricing.  Psychologically, there is a big difference between what you can afford and maybe what you should continue to save for.  You may have heard of the story of the three little pigs where each built different houses for their own reasons.  Once they encounter danger, only one house was found to be helpful.  Rash decisions can have severe ramifications later that if patience was used would be avoided.  Actually gaining information about land, the surrounding area, building specifications, interest rates and mortgages can give some leverage to negotiate with a realtor.  Now you might not want to bicker about what is discussed but you should be able to make correction or insert suggestion as part of a deal.  This can also enlighten about how someone may try to cut corners and get over in some way.  Proper preparation will lead to favorable results the majority of the time in most situations.  People can offer misinformation but you are ultimately responsible for signing your name on any agreement.  At the end of the day, we have to own all of our failures, successes, mistakes and achievements we create or encounter from the ground up.

A Question Of Preference: Career or Family?

At this point of my life, the decision between career and family is difficult due to the complexity of my current transition.  The flow of my life is centered on the cogent tendency of completing my education to begin a career while ramifying from the family I ripened under to the one I would love to handpick and develop with.  Both contingents are in flux as what I am doing now leads to what is to come.  However even if I were able to ace my part with flying colors, I am left to still be dependent on another’s approval to complete my mission in its entirety.  Therefore it is a rigorous process to conk out the higher priority as my best effort may not be good enough for each case.  In either situation I would prefer to be a primary option first.  That would provide the secondary route where whatever I have done will be accepted and pursued by someone.  The burden of proof is whether I can take the offered opportunity with gratitude or continue the dogged ambition of only getting what I originally set out for without considering to settle for anything construed to be less.  Then you face the battle of pride versus rejection and perception versus reality.  Begin the procedure comparing what has happened with what your vision was and ponder the question again as the results become nonvolatile and fixed.  Sometimes you will find that all you worked and hoped for can inevitably be revealed as evanescent.  When nothing lasts forever, life actually gains the ability to teach the lesson that complacency is, in itself, a questionable attribute to have.  Contentment can encompass not only sustaining but also enhancing what you have already attained.   Two paths are enabled in both points of this discussion.  The first can be just refining your role and capabilities on the job or delving into a novel and scintillating appreciation for your spouse or partner.  It can also address searching for that long awaited promotion or expanding your family in number by marriage or childbirth. 

If everything was fair and neutral then I guess the question just comes down to which I want more.  A family can provide motivation to reach certain plateaus.  A career, similarly, imparts evidence that you are a valued member of something.  If one were to exist without the other that would tip the scales in the favor of a career.  You could still use the income to socialize, invest and enjoy yourself minus the additional responsibility of maintaining more lives.  A home would not remain a happy one if a family could not be supported by their chief breadwinner.  Nonetheless I know sometimes I would rather return to headquarters where I am loved and adored by those that mean the most to me.  I suppose a different perspective could allow ample time to spend with family after a proud retirement from a successful career.  The balance is confounding as one can always look like the other if you wanted it to.  Honestly I could watch the pendulum swing on this topic for eternity.  In my mind, it is just like asking whether the chicken or the egg came first.  You can make a justifiable argument for either while a sufficient counter is always available to suggest the opposite as the predecessor.  Maybe it would have been simpler to say “I don’t know” until my life is directed one way or the other.  A holier view may well let the issue be resolved by prayer or through faith.  Then I would not have to answer the question since a sanctified providence had an indicator in making the determination with me.  And finally trust and believe that the outcome was the only decision conceivable.  

Lady In Red

A girl once said she liked how I rhyme

So I decided to write a message line by line

She hasn't seen my tears

And she doesn't know my fears

But she sees a smile

Whenever her words touches my ears

I don't realize how deep my feelings for her goes

And find it strange that its my emotions she controls

I get lost in her eyes

And stare at her lips

I cherish simple hugs

And daydream about her hips

She shapes my opinion and changes the mood

I still can figure out if thats bad or good

Rambunctious laughter

Is what we share

For the rubric of before and after

Exhibits the improvement came latter

In the moment given

Only caters to whats living

Igniting kerosene

Illuminates the odd liaison

All we see is green

Preserving creation